I quit my job recently to help care for my 92yr old Mom. She has a history of, nervous breakdowns, depression, hypochondria and the worst part for me is isolated outbursts yelling at me and her dog when she knows no one else is around. She lives alone, can cook and drive still etc. when not sick. She is overweight, on at least 20 pills a day also when not sick. This is in my opinion from her and her years of illness abuse with her doctor. I thought I could handle it better by quitting work, because it was just so stressful doing both. But 6 months into it, she's more needy and hyper focused on her newly found daily ailments that only her doctor and an another appointment to discuss can fix, resulting in going over things and him telling her to see another doctor....eye dr, hand surgeon, bladder specialist, to revisit things she's already addressed and can't be changed or are one time incidents. I am starting to break out in face, ear and neck hives and get panic attacks and headaches. I'm now trying to do a day on and a day I am unavailable, routine and trying meditation to calm the histamine breakouts but now my blood pressure is also being affected....My guilt is so heavy because she had her Mom live with her and thinks that she should be able to live with my husband and I, because that's the way it should be in her mind. I was adopted and thankfully have not got the tendency she has for constant attention and over excentuation of illnesses but she is starting to really affect my health. I go over do errands and cleaning, try to visit etc. But she always stresses about concerns and her needs etc..adding more to the list of what she wants me to fix or change in her life. Any advice??