She want things to remain the same. What do I do? I’ve been taking care of my mother (83yrs old) for 3 years since my father died. She was diagnosed with dementia 2 ½” years ago. I reluctantly moved into her house to take care of her. I loved my apartment in the middle of town. Now I’m several miles from town, Ugh. At that time I noticed that the house was getting run down.. Peeling wallpaper, missing or broken baseboards, Stained cabinets & stained carpet, missing or broken kitchen light panels, and leak in the roof, now the porch needs repaired as the wood is cracked. The railing needs fixed as is a bit unstable…For three years, Every time I try to fix something, she has a “hissy fit” telling me “don’t touch, don’t change things that I’m not a man and I’m not supposed to do things like that. Well, I’m a woman and the daughter of a carpenter. I am certainly able to fix things, thanks to my father…Now, Its driving me nuts every time I see things that need to be fixed. I am going to just fix things and risk her ire (I’ve learned how to duck when thing go flying) I can’t stand it any longer. Any ideas how to pacify her? She has a tendency to get angry. Then she refuses to eat, bathe, talk, and she pouts and complains to EVERYONE when things don’t go her way for WEEKS. Even my grown children never acted like that.