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We are in South Carolina and my 91 year old mother recently had a very negative reaction to a new medication that seems to have sent her over the edge. She has been out of the hospital for four days and even this morning did not know where she was. I am her sole caregiver and am rapidly becoming overwhelmed,especially with hardly being able to sleep at night. She has been with me for a year and the situation has gotten progressively worse as she wants to be in her home in NC. She is frail and blind, and that just is not possible. she spends most of her time in a depression over not being at home.. She has no assets and we cannot afford out of pocket nursing care. Can anyone please tell me where to start and what to do? She has an appointment with her doctor tomorrow......and if her mind remains this confused, I will not be able to care for her much longer.
I have just recently applied for Aid and Attendance benefits but it's too early to hear from them. I know this is sketchy but hope it's enough to get some helpful feedback. This site has really been a life saver to me. Thanks so much.

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If she were to 'come to' so to speak mentally, would that fix the problem? I mean, were you getting along okay taking care of her up till this happened? If so, then getting her to the doctor would be the logical place to start in my opinion. Lay it all out to the dr, and don't leave until you have your questions answered about her sudden mental confusion. When we moved my mother-in-law out of the house she'd been in for 50 years it was understandable why she lamented that for about a year. It's been 4 years now and even though she still mentions it once in awhile, it's not as terrible as it once was. Some things are to be expected, but this sudden mental confusion isn't one of those things.
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That would fix the immediate problem. Over the year my mother has been with me our relationship has gotten progressively worse. I spent my working life on the opposite coast and abroad and my mother holds a lot of resentment and bitterness about that, referring to it as "being out of her life" even though we spoke at least weekly and I came home at least once a year no matter where I was. Now I'm not able to do anything right and that bitterness seems to have taken over. I'm at loose ends as to what to do next Burma feeling that being together is not healthy for either of us.......and her sadness and depression is difficult to handle.
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I would apply for medicade for her and you should be able to get some assitance thru the association for the blind as well. If she qualifys you will be able to get a nursing home paid for in full and medications. If she is as poor as you say I don't see a problem. Division of Family services, social security, health and senior services. Just start calling and looking for help. Oh and if you find a nursing home for her they know the drill of getting assistance for her they are more motivated because they want their money. Medicare pays for the first 28 days then it changes over to medicaid.
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