Just found this forum and decided to write about my situation. I am an only child and both my parents have Alzheimer's (mother has dementia) my parents were living in their house together until last Saturday. I have been taking care of them for over 3 years, driving back and forth from my home to theirs almost every day. My parents have been married for 57 years! Starting last October, my mother started to get more confused and wanted to go home, (she was already home) my dad would hold her back so she would not leave in the middle of the night. She would get upset and bite him! ( she wasn’t recognizing him) it got worse and I had to put her in a home.
My dad has been a wreck since she has been placed 7 days ago and have been calling me 30-50 times a day! Sometime in the middle of the night!!!! He is depressed and tells me he cannot live without my mother! He is very anxious, sad and sometimes gets mad believing I did not tell him where my mom is! ( I must of told him over 200 times. I have someone going 5 times a week for 4 hours each day + I go every day! He constantly tells me he cannot live without my mom and categorically refuses to live elsewhere but home! Either options he tells me he will die! I am so over my head right now!