Can I override my sisters power of attorney over my mum?

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my mum my sister is not looking after her i am the eldest of six my mum has early signs dementia . my mother has carers go in 3 times aday which she pays for herself, my sister has problems with her health and is now divorcing her husband who stabbed her last year it was in the papers due to finding out she was seeing a woman. my mum was terrified of her husband which my sister have now left to watch over my mum why she is away with her girlfriend. my mum is in hospital with pnemonia and is saying to me she do not want to go back to her home with them. my mum thinks she is in a residential home. my mum says its so nice to see people and that she has nice meals and her medication is brought to her. my mother says its so nice to see people and to talk i was left for hours on my own. my mother said she always said she would never go in a home. but now she is glad she is in one it is so nice and i am being well looked after. there has been numerous problems with mums medication she ia also a diabetic my sister works in the chemist and it seems that she likes to try mum on new medication tat comes out and is always tampering with her medication . my mum i feel as like my sisters than she not safe around my younger sister.

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My sister has poa over my mum as she is in a nursing home she has started borrowing money from myself and my brother my mother is very frail we have asked my sister is mums money okay she just says yes and walks out of the room we have asked her many times if she could put something in place for her funeral but always answers i'll do it later we are worried now as we think there is no money left as she has spent it all and we don't know anythimg about it so i was wondering if if my brother or myself could be poa
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I am my fathers POA. However, he has dementia (sometimes) and tells my brother all kinds of things. I don't feed him, he's not allowed to talk on the phone, I steal his money.. it goes on and on. My father lives with me and I am his sole caretaker. If my brother tried to be made his new POA the judge would tell him he's wasting his time. He never visited him in the 5 different nursing homes he resided in and only visits twice a month here at my home. Make sure your mom is telling the truth. My dad also liked the hospital and nursing homes.. for about the 1st week and then he was asking to be taken home.. again. Good Luck!!
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Your mother can simply select a new POA -- you! If she is capable of understanding the concept of appointing someone to act on her behalf she is probably competent to make a new assignment. (My husband was in and out of lucidity when we were drawing up this kind of paperwork. Our lawyer simply said she would be sure he was signing it on a lucid day, even it had to be rescheduled several times.)

While you may not need a lawyer to draw up a POA, in this case I strongly urge that you go through one. You want every i dotted and every t crossed so this will stand up in court if it ever comes to that.

Act quickly, so Mum will not have to return to an environment she fears.
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Yes, you can over ride the POA that your sister has by asking your mom if it is okay to do so and finding a good attorney who will do it. Since your mom has "early" signs of dementia I would get this done ASAP while your mom still understands what is going on. The fact that your mom is telling you that she does not want to go back to stay w/ your sister is a good reason to have a new POA done ASAP. When the attorney writes it up make sure that he says that the new POA over rides all previous POAs. Also, FYI, elderly people don't do well on prescription drugs and my guess is that your mom has pneumonia due to the adverse effects of the any one of the drugs that she is taking. You don't want her spending too much time in a hospital because hospitals are full of germs. Get her out and get her on natural alternatives and if she is on cholesterol lowering drugs (statins) get her off of them ASAP. They are dangerous for elderly people. Even the natural alternatives are dangerous. The concept of high cholesterol was invented to help the drug companies make huge profits but it is a scam drug and no doctor s/b prescribing it. Good luck.
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you would likely have to prove some form of neglect, mismanagement of medications jeopardizing your moms health and safety. get your entirel list of things that are wrong then get to an attorney and let him advise you. it will likely be a hard battle to prove these things. in usa there is adult protective services. you can also give them the information and they will investigate.
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