My mom (92) lives in ALF. In the past couple of years she has had numerous falls. She uses a walker, gets around okay but hunched over, has a pacemaker. Getting in and out of vehicles is really hard for her. I decided awhile back that I don’t want to take her places and she’s safer having the ALF staff transport her. I visit regularly, participate in facility social activities, run errands for her, meet her at doctor appointments. She STILL wants me to take her out and about. I’ve told her if she falls on my watch it’s an immediate 911 call.
I’m not looking for advice (my NO has become much easier over the years) but has anyone else been in this situation?
If you feel you feel it is too dangerous, then it is.
I think a drive and a lunch in your care at the park is a perfect activity at this point.
When that happened we stopped taking in law out . My husband and I drew the line at lifting them out of a dining chair . At this time it was also getting difficult for in law to get out of the car . We brought carry out food to them .
Generally speaking, numerous falls are what got her to where she is now.
Moms 89 she should be able to do the stuff she likes to do , with in reason, and if she isn't running me ragged.
I sure understand if the answer now is "no".
Does her ALF offer rides for those wishing to go on rides? My brother's did. He was in Palm Springs and they regularly would take rides to an oasis, or to homes of the "Stars".
You are sure correct that at some point the risk of an injury far outweighs any real benefit.
It is very frustrating, when she wants to stop at are local convenant store, because there is always a lot of , hard working, hungry men needing food, and she shuffles around. This drives me absolutely bonkers. I found one convenant store that has small carts and is a bit roomier.
I honestly believe get her out like this is what keeps her going, but I do feel your pain!
She gets annoyed with me in the winter, when I say it's too ice, and too dangerous, there are a few other places I will not bring her anymore. Local florest, ground is way to uneven .
I completely feel your pain. As for getting her in and out of the car, we got that pretty figured out, can't park near another car because the door has to be wide open and the seat has to be in a certain position.
Your not alone, if it doesn't feel safe to you then you have every right to say no. 🥰