I'm the caregiver for parents for --5 yr?
My sister says she can't visit, it would take a long day to drive here and she doesn't want to sleep at parents house.
So my sister seem to want to be involved, somehow. And it occur to me, she tries to be involved --by telling me what to do! Fix this for dinner, shop here not there, even tell me when she is afraid they might get the flu from going to church, don't go to church there are too many people coughing.
If she lived nearby and was actually perfoeming caregiving duties, I would not mind. It wouldnt be anything at all to "talk shop" and share ideas.
Sister is just being downright annoying. I don't have time for it. I wish she could be more truly useful.
How to explain the need I have, without hurting her feeling that she is being "helpful" when she is just not?