I have a live-in assistant that generally is very protective and caring to my father. Sometimes , however, maybe she has a harder time "accepting" his current frailities. For example, my father soiled the bedding overnight -- but he had taken off his underpants and moved to a clean part of the bed. After breakfast she insisted to him to go take a shower and wash off his tush.
My father was very tired and protested, pleaded to just lie down. I came over to help and actually his tush was mostly clean from what I could see. I had to really coax him to wash, I felt bad thru all his pleading to lie down. He is much stronger and willing to wash in the mid-afternoon.
If I had to make the call, I would have just tried to have him wash in the afternoon, but I think it's also part of her cleaning schedule to get things done in the a.m. How do I just get her to go more with the flow, when things aren't "dire," albeit not "best-case?"