My husband's Mom (91) is living here full time. They think we shouldn't complain, that we knew what we signed up for, and sometimes we think they think we are trying to take her money which is totally untrue. To them, of course she is grandma. to use, we are the caregivers and do all we can to keep grandma happy and comfortable. But it is so hard. No privacy, trips to the doctors, nurses in and out, can't travel. and snippy remarks from her. What can we do to make our kids understand???