Our 93-year-old grandma has been put into Taylor House. Her financial power of attorney is telling us the weekly cost is $6000 a week. Is this true?

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Her son passed away 4 yrs ago. My son-in-law is her only grandchild. she does have a nephew who lives my. It is his wife that is the POA. So it is a family member. Dealing with my own situation when lost my mother in June my sister was the POA and she kept my brother and myself informed about everything, and if a questioned was asked she always was quick to respond with an answer. That is way I am so concerned on the lack of communication from the POA. She acts like it is only her and her husband's business when it comes to my son-in-law's grandmother. Yes getting old is very complicated, and if you don't have everything in order, and also have more than one person in to for checks and balances there can be alot of funny business going on. Money makes people do funny things. I hope nothing is gong on, but it needs to be checked into.
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So this is your son-in-law's grandmother. Is he the only living heir? Are her children deceased? The POA can be a bum off the street if the grandmother trusts them. But as her grandson, he has the right to know how money is being spent. Talk to a lawyer now, I would bet grandma is being taken advantage of. What kind of person can do this. I am so amazed at the things I read on this site. Children who take their parents money, parents who hurt their children over money, children who won't help, horrible parents who cause the children not to help. Getting old certainly can be complicated.
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Thank you all for your information and comments. I will keep you posted on what happens with my son-in-law's grandmother. Thanks again.....it is nice to know that when a person needs help there is someplace you can go for information and support.
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Iowa,
Speaking in terms of POA, if they are making the sound decision and there is not another (Secondary Person) listed on the POA to over-ride their decisions, basically you would have to pursue the matter legally if you and other family members do not feel they are holding up to their responsibility.

As for the Care facility, have you contacted them personally just to get information as to how much they charge, what they offer? If you have not, first and foremost, you want to look into this yourself...I am hoping this is the same place you are speaking of, as I am attaching their website: http://www.iowahealthhomecare.org/body.cfm?id=42

My Aunt is 94 and living in an assisted living home, paying 1,000 a month, however, this facility she is at, DOES NOT, have all of the care that the Taylor House offers for care.

Investigate her needs, rather your parents and other Aunts/Uncles will need to do this, as they are her children. We grandchildren, unless caring for them personally, really have NO SAY in the situation at hand unless you have the backbone to stand up for your grandmother =] I wish you all the best, and hope this helped a little.

Jan
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I'd like to share a web site that I created concerning the subject because of my very dep concern about this type of elder abuse. It is www.annaburbage.org . She was abused and my mother who is suffering from dementia has been as well. Abusers don't stop unless they are confronted. But other than attempting to deal with the abuser or suspected abuser or the authorities, you must not risk taking specifics out in public. Yet, how can the public realize that issues as discussed here are happening and are likely wrongful.
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the people that care for her, what are they doing but draining the family and you beleive this is love, 6,ooo a week the aides that feed her, care for her . do not make this amount in three months . i wwould take her home an show her love talk about things, laugh, i was taking care of a 92 year old lady. she spent most of her awaking hrs, asking was i there yet, we drove a round to the beach, i let her feet get wet, we ate what ever she wanted the doctor had told her family and my self that she would pass in 6 months , she lived 8 more years, i was blessed to have known her, her last days was spent in a nuring home, that where she passed, the family was busy, i cried like a baby, and i was only her caregiver i received more joy from being with her than anyone i can think of . think about this. wjohnso
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I fell bad for you because you are dealing with a thief and a liar.
Please do like Ed said and don't wait. Family confrontations are always awful, money makes people nuts and morphine over an extended period of time with anybody, but especially the elderly, will turn them into a shadow of themselves which is what the thief and liar want.
This is ugly and you can fix it, but like many have said, you're going to need a lawyer and pronto.
Call the state's Attorney General. They take a dim view of any abuse of the elderly, physical, emotional or financial.
Good luck and keep us posted. What low lifes.

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The way it works in our state, when my mom entered the "health care", 90 days are allowed on Medicare, then if she's going to stay all assets are signed over to the place that will be taking care of her. The cost is based on her income and how much money she has including car, life ins, bonds, etc.
Medicaid gets all and turns around and pays the place she'll be staying. This is in Ks.
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Which state is your grandma? I live in Wa state. I am i Residential Care provider. I do not admit Residents in hospice but, if they go into hospice during their stay, the charge is way less than what your grandma is paying. Depends on the level of care can be about $6,000-$7,000/mo. Or, maybe you miss understood like Madge said. Gets very expensive because are nurses, social worker involved also, 2 caregivers, 24/7 care, if she is bed bound, she needs to be turn every 2hrs, maybe feeding, etc.
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IOWA:

Tell the grandson to report the POA and that lounge lizard husband of hers to the authorities before it's too late and the $ is all gone ... and grandma has to move in with him. Hurry.

-- ED
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