My mother has a 12 year old blind and diabetic dog that needs insulin twice a day, 12 hours apart and 4 kinds of eye drops four times a day (She also has another dog with teeth problems, but that is something else). I don't have pets because I don't want to have to take care of any ( I know my limitations). She lives a half hour away from me and 10 minutes from my sister. I also have a husband and 2 children who must be driven to school a half hour from my house in the opposite direction from my mother's house (naturally). My husband takes them one way, but I have to do the other direction. My sister has a husband (children grown and gone) and while she is between jobs, needs to get a job for financial reasons. My mom has never been active. Then she broke her upper arm, and my sister and I split shifted taking care of her after surgery for 4 weeks. She ended up needing oxygen 24/7 due to the surgery. She has congestive heart failure, COPD and "bones like eggshells" as the doctor put it. No sleep, because my mother catnaps all day, leaves the TV running until midnight, the dog needs to go out at 2 and 4 am and my mother gets up at 5 am. Food, insulin and drops (4 kinds, 5 minutes apart) for the dog at 6am, 10 am, 2 pm and food insulin and drops at 6PM. After 4 weeks, we no longer stayed at the house 24/7 (as we needed sleep). My mother is able to take care of herself (for the most part), but she will not do her arm exercises and insists that it is no use, she will never be able to use the arm again. Enter the problem: the blind/diabetic dog. My sister, because she lives closer, does the eye drops during the day, and I try to take as many nights and mornings as I can. My sister is exhausted, I cannot afford the gas money to drive there four times a day, and I cannot stay all day three to four days a week. My mother isn't even trying to improve to the point where she can at least put the drops in the dogs eyes during the day. I keep trying to tell both my sister and my mother that we should hire someone to help out with the dog, but I cannot afford to pay for it on my own, and my mother has plenty of money to do so, but won't. Both my sister and my mother seem to think we are all going to take care of the dog for the rest of it's life, but I am very resentful that my family is getting shortchanged because of my mother's dog, especially since I don't have pets for EXACTLY this reason. I have even told them so. Putting the dog to sleep doesn't seem to be an option (which I get). What responsibilities do I have to this dog, and how do I deal with it? FWIW, I have no problem going to my mother's house once a week to pick up the dog doo and take out the trash and recycling, and/or other days to buy her groceries, vacuum or take her to the doctor. It's the every day, every four hours for a dog that is getting priority over my own family that I am having issues with.