I came across this site during some very recent hard times in the area of caregiving. I have read nightly after coming home from work late the forums and responses. I am edified and grateful for this site. it took me sometime to realize, afew days anyway, to see others care and understand here. I come here posting my own story and would appreciate any advice, reflections, and insight.
I have been caring and the only family member ledt for my 76 year old aunt. My Dad was her brother. My mom died of cancer when I was little my Dad very suddenly. There is no other family left. My aunt has suffered two falls years apart, last one being left her in a wheelchair and unable to walk. She is homebound and we reside in the same apartment with our family pet together. Along side of her falls, she is going to blind, is incredibly hard of hearing, cant drive and her mind seems to be going. I am not familiar with Alzheimers or Dementia. Am wondering if she is beginning this sort of thing. I have talked wtih her about seeking other help to help me with caring for her . Like an aide or neighbors or asking her friends she use to work with before her second fall, she says " You can do it, I dont want to bother anybody else." I dont have any brothers or sisters or any family, nor does she. I work, am going to start school again in the fall, have existing health problems myself, and cant keep up with everything. She has flooded the apartment four times forgetting she had the water going in the sink, it overflowed. My aunt never married, never had any kids, lived with my patternal grandma all of her life until my grandma's death in 1978 and the finally had to move out and be on her own. Then it was my Dad her only brother and went to my Dad with everything from advice and a listening ear. He died very suddenly in 2004. Then she and a guy I was dating for a long time she went to him with everything and he was paying her bills. Helping her. He and I recently broke up and he is no longer in the picture with his help. So the codpendency issues were long time formed. I am not married nor have any kids. The anger and resentment she has created in me trying to have a life, is immense. I come here asking for help and advice this morning. At the present as I write this, I am sick with problems with diabetes, and my blood sugar, and hair loss and skin problems, I am wondering if this is from stress and this situation I am in. I cant go on like this. Please help!