My 83 year old mom (has some dementia (short term memory only so far) and arthritis) has been having a rough time lately. She was up here staying with our family Dec-Feb but wanted to go back and try living again in her home alone. She was up here with us over the holidays and stayed a little longer.
For the past 4 years, she has been using a walker and we have home health aides set up for her in her home to help her - generally coming once or twice a day to help her. From February to mid April, no problems at all and was doing fine. She went with us to the beach for spring break in April, then came back and had a bout of dehydration which landed her in the hospital for 2 days. She came home and was still dehydrated (IMO they discharged her too early) and we found a new doctor in her area that does home visits and he has been monitoring her ever since. I just wasn't impressed with her current doctor. New doctor came and did an IV for her and then she slowly started to get better and was walking again with walker. We went to visit her this past weekend and when we got there she wasn't feeling well and was pretty disoriented. The home health aid who was there when I arrived - said when she saw her last she was doing fine so it seems this came on all of the sudden. I called her doctor, who came over to check her out - and found out she has a urinary tract infection. She has been on antibiotics for 5 days now and is not bouncing back as she has done in the past...of course I called the doctor and he came over to check her again and is going to do an IV for her today to help get her more hydrated and that should assist her with getting over this UTI. Of course, I am so worried as I had to leave on Tuesday to come home as I have to work and I have two small children (ages 4 and 6) that are in school. My mom is just so isolated there (we are 350 miles away) and has no socialization other than the home health aides, we have tried different things to get her to do something but she just sits in her chair and watches TV. There has to be more to life for her than this...I've found a wonderful assisted living place very close to us that I want to move her to. And actually while she was here visiting, she went to visit it with me as my co-workers mother lives there and my mom loved it and asked the staff if they had any space for her....I so wished I would of moved her in right then and there. Now, I am just praying that she will get better so she can move her up here. I know I don't have any specific question and it is more of a vent but I do welcome any comments or inspirations as I know all of us are suffering right along with our parents as their health declines.