Completely successful knee surgery, went to skilled rehab for Occupational and physical therapy for 3 weeks...Get him home and he became utterly dependent. I too had a surgery and he’s got no regard to my injuring myself to help. Told someone else he has Long Term Care when he thought I couldn’t hear. Has become completely needy and fills my time with trivial tasks. Doesn’t do anything for himself when he is a 40 hr a week volunteer at VA hospital and takes 1-2 trips to gamble a week. 6 phone calls asking where I am in 45 minutes, everything needs done NOW. Won’t wipe his own butt, get himself dressed even though he was walking the day after surgery (he dressed himself when I wasn’t there). Is this normal? It seems to be getting worse fast and I’m resentful, especially when he laughs when I’m in agony trying to help. Is it just to manipulate my time and attention? Why hide his LTC coverage he paid for 36 years? He’s running me in the ground, just to watch me do it!