My older sibling is POA for our mom with dementia, but keeps information from the rest of the family. Can we do anything?

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My sibling has took poa on my mom whom has dementia, my mom as well has a aide and a nurse plus her live in boyfriend . My sister and moms bf keep info from rest of siblings then goes around trashing siblings for not helping .. the bf has totally ruined us from visiting our mom since he moved in our father sd house and sibling allows him to take money and checks, my dads 401k. Mom gets sedated with her nerve meds, I feel like the bf takes off and leaves her alone. She has had a broken hip, now she has caught on fire from her o2 tank while he so called ran to buy cig. She is always asleep when he decides to run the street. She has gave him her car he claims but how can she when she doesn't recall? And he took het to check cashing place to sign her name for him to cash her checks in which he controls.

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And it was not financial it was health
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Katiekate. Excuse me yes i understand this is your own feelings on the way you feel on a poa since u are one, buti disagree on the poa . Since i had went today to a lawyer he sd no the siblings have rights to know about thr mother and we need to actual see this so called poa . I understand you are a poa on your dad and mom but i was asking a question unbiased. .if i did not explain completely there is more concersion going on i never put in my question.
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Excuse me yes i understand this is your own feelings on the way you feel on a poa since u are one, buti disagree on the poa . Since i had went today to a lawyer he sd no the siblings have rights to know about thr mother and we need to actual see this so called poa . I understand you are a poa on your dad and mom but i was asking a question unbiased. .if i did not explain completely there is more concersion going on i never put in my question. And it was reguarding the health of my parent. My dad is deceased .
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No. The POA had an absolute obligation to keep those financial record private.

While the POA is handling  everything for the benefit of that individual..they have no right to disclose that to anyone...including family.

If you are fairly sure there is finically abuse...report her to APS. But, if you are wrong...expect that to be the event that truly rips any remainder of family ties apart. Most POAs have a hard enough time...they don't appreciate interference.

Decide if you want to do this. If you believe that you must for the sake of your Dad....proceed.
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Nanatries, I am putting your post back closer to the front page to see if someone can help you with your question :)
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