The old man doesn't like his narcissistic family member "caregiver" who has him persuaded he needs her. I went away a couple of weeks and came back to find him half-starved. Skin grey. Drawn and weak. Pressure sores from being in one position on hard sofa day after day.
I have little influence but feed him well when he's with me, prolonging his life and mending his body ills, while his dementia and body ills continue unabated. He always will choose this family member's version of the situation over mine. Is it wrong to let him stay in his house more and when he's with me give him the un-nourishing food he prefers? His family member likes it when he's w/ me, so can live life unrestrained in the demented relation's house. I'm pretty much helpless and in despair. Social services in his area unhelpful.