My father is 87 and my mother is 80. They live in Pakistan on their own. There is help in terms of cooking and cleaning but my father relies totally on my mother for everything. He has had 2 strokes and he has become very intolerant. He hoards things, their bedroom is a mess and he sleeps all day and then awake all night. He wouldn't let any other help inside the house and wants my mother to do all work. Whats the best way to change his outlook? I live in London and am in constant guilt for not being there to take care of my parents. Its just too difficult to relocate and find a similar kind of job there. I am still trying. Would be great to get views from the readers as I just cant figure out what to do.