Is it okay to bring a parent in a 24 hour care facility home for a visit?

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My mom is currently in a 24hr care facility in FL and my dad lives in their house as he is capable of independent living. In a few months they will both be moving to a new facility where my dad, after selling his home, will be in an independent living apartment and my mom will be moved to the 24hr care facility on site. My brother has concerns about my mom visiting my dad to see where he is living and wants to keep her at the 24hr buliding and not know exactly where my dad has moved to. I am wondering what harm there may be if she came to visit him once in a while if she is able and then return to the 24hr care. The plan at present is to only have him visit her and not the other way around. If anyone could provide some input I would greatly appreciate it

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Makes me think of that movie with James Garner - The Notebook? - where he read to his wife every day. I think she had Alzheimer's. He visited her in the community room and dining room and on the lawn.

If she doesn't have mental impairment, won't she ask him where he's living and why they moved? Seems like the issue of selling the house might come up in conversation.
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I see your point. My mom is imobile and this is why she was placed in the facility as my dad is 80 w/COPD and simply could no longer lift her up to place in wheelchair to take to the restroom numerous times per day and night. She is still with it mind-wise and I feel bad that in the limited space she has in her semi-private room there is NOTHING from the home in which she lived. She will be moving to a room similar to the location where she is at present. I was in FL over the holidays and visited every day. We went through numerous photo albums and I believe our time was well spent as she paid attention throughout. I will be returning back in April to help with the relocation and I think that I would feel much better if her area was decorated with things that have some sentimental value and I will most certainly see that this is done. My dad will be taking along many of his things to his new abode (2 bedroom apt.) and I think that mom should be able to look around her room and see some memories too. Thank you freqflyer for your insight!!!
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I have read on the forum similar questions and the conciseness was not to remove a patient from a 24-hour care facility for a visit elsewhere.... but I noticed on your profile that your Mom's health issue is that of mobility. Just curious why she is in a 24-hour care facility? Any chance of improvement?

I think it is great that your Dad will be moving and living in the same complex, in his own building... that way he do daily visits, and possibly join your Mom for lunch. I agree with your brother.... having your Mom visit your Dad's new location would only upset her know she wouldn't be staying with him but leaving to return to her own facility. She will see items from her previous home and that will make her homesick. Guess it all depends on her mindset.
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