How have others approached asking a loved one who currently is of sound mind about granting Power of Attorney? My step-father is getting ready to have surgery, and I really feel as if there needs to be a document granting POA to me or my husband.
This issue has arisen a couple of times before, and it's a little complicated as my step-father lives with my husband and me but has a biological daughter who lives seven hours away. Because of proximity and day-to-day caregiving duties, we are far more familiar with his routines, doctors, medical issues. However, that old saying "blood runs thicker than water" has certainly reared its head a time or two since my mother's death.
There is a will in place...but no POA has been designated. My step-father also assumes that his telling me in an ER that he wants a DNR will suffice if that issue comes up. I really wish he would formalize everything, but I'm not sure how to broach it without sounding morbid...or making him think I'm trying to get into his finances (even though I am on all accounts but one savings account).