I have been helping my 91 year old mom for 8 years even though she was living by herself. She has had 3 hospitalizations in 2 years. She has mental issues and would not face reality by considering help. My brother sees her on mother's day and birthday but otherwise takes no part in her care. Why does everyone expect me to take care of her? Fact: I had 18 polio related surgeries and she could not be there because it upset HER too much. Now she wants me to take her home from NH even though she can't walk. I am 65, just retired and would like to travel a bit before I am unable to get around. She was also an only child. She has always been miserable and unhappy as well as depressed with terrible anxiety. I really do not want to bring her into my home and make my husband and I miserable. Suggestions?