My mother is in a nursing home and can no longer feed herself. It takes her an hour to an hour and a half to eat a meal when someone has the time to sit and feed her. She lost 5 lbs this past week. Recently she told my brother she wasn’t hungry and didn’t want to go down to dining room. Not specified if it was a one time request or just that one time. She does eat when fed and will tell you when she’s had enough. They just don’t have staff to devote to feeding one patient. Now he wants to stop feeding her altogether and just let her pass away. She does have a DNR and ‘no feeding tube’ on her medical wishes. She does have some dementia. I want to hire someone to feed her meals. They haven’t even suggested or tried Ensure or Boost yet. I don’t know what she wants but brother says she isn’t capable of making her own decisions anymore. I think refusing to eat altogether would be a decision. She still eats when food is offered. Just takes too long for staff. What are other opinions on this from people who had to make such a decision?