My mother has been largely bed bound for a year or so, after a stroke and several serious UTIs that have led to sepsis and hospitalization. She is in her home with 24/7 care and has the most wonderful health aides anyone could ask for (all covered by Medicaid - a miracle).
A nurse (from Visiting Nurse Service of NY - a wonderful organization) was visiting her 3 times a week to clean and dress a bedsore that isn't bad at this point, but it persists and needs to be tended to. I had no idea these sores were so hard to heal. Her aides tend to it the other four days.
We put her on hospice care through the same organization a week or so ago (obvious that it's time for that), and now a nurse only visits once a week. Today this new nurse told the aide that she will have to train ME to clean the sore because the aides are not technically allowed to do this (but they have been doing it anyway, plus the pre-hospice service nurse came 3 times a week.)
There is NO WAY I am going to get anywhere near my mother's bedsore!!! It's right above her butt. I am very squeamish, don't want to see her naked, plus she would never allow me to do this. She is tended to by trained aides 24/7. What if I lived far away? I am shocked that they expect me to do this. I called and left a message and said no way. Waiting to hear back.
Anyone have experience with this situation?