Some comments I've seen suggest that elders who are hesitant to move into a nursing home have memories of how "horrible" they were years ago and that the facilities are "not what they used to be" many years ago. I'd like to know more about this. My maternal grandfather was in one back in 1982-1983 in central PA and I never got the impression that it was a horrible place. I also had a Great Uncle in one back about 1960 in NE NJ, and although my memories are somewhat limited as I was only about 8 and visited once, I got the impression the people there were as happy as any I've seen where my mother is living now. I remember a nurse or aide being quite pleasant and friendly. Were nursing homes typically bad in earlier years or was it that the bad ones tended to get away with it? In addition, what was "bad" about them? Was the care bad or neglectful, the building or rooms dreary, or the staff indifferent or nasty? It would be interesting to read what others can recall from their experiences with grandparents and other long-gone relatives; some spouses and parents currently in facilities may have made specific comments about previous generations, too. I've never seen any elaboration on this subject so I thought it would be interesting and helpful to bring it up.