At a caregivers support group one of the participants asked for help with a Nursing Home problem. A woman was in a nursing home with ALZ and was not being bathed (showered) for days. The woman was refusing to take a shower and fighting every effort to help her shower.
The staff wanted to medicate the woman (which is illegal) to manage the refusal and shouting. As I understand it the NH administration said they had no choice but to allow the woman go unwashed (showered).
The participant is the health care proxy for the woman.
How would you recommend solving the standoff?