The nursing home will no longer put my mother on the toilet they say she's incontinent. She can not stand or go herself. They have to use a lift to get her in and out of bed or on the toilet but since they've said she's incontinent they will not use the lift to get her on the toilet. When she is put on the toilet she does go but since she's not offered to go what choice does she have but to go in her depends. We've had many discussions with the nurse trying to get them to at least get her on the toilet first thing in the morning and before they put her in bed they refused saying she's incontinent. I would think it would be easier to get her on the toilet than to have to clean up the major mess when she goes.