My mother in law is 91 and has developed Alzheimers in the last year and a half. My brother in law has been living with her for the past 2 years and taking care of her; however, he recently underwent surgery for throat cancer and is temporarily unable to care for her. Since my husband and I both work full time, we had no choice but to put her in a nursing home, planning on a one to two month stay. She has been there three weeks and we have been called at least a dozen times, demanding that one of us come out there and stay with her because they "can't handle" her and don't have the staff to do "one on one" with her. By "can't handle her", they mean that she won't stay sitting in a wheelchair or laying in her bed; she wants to get up and move around and they are afraid she'll fall. Whenever we go out there after one of these calls, we find that she is agitated and wanting to walk around and talking about wanting to go home. My husband usually gets her walker and walks her around the halls for 30-40 minutes and that seems to calm her down.
I realize that nursing homes aren't staffed to give one on one attention to each individual, but we can't keep going like this. With working full time, we aren't able to take care of her ourselves, which is why we had to go with a nursing home to start with. (We've had to use sick time and vacation days to cover time off from work with the nursing home has called us to come in.) Shouldn't the staff be prepared to handle this, or are we just expecting too much?