My mom has been under hospice care for 6+ months now. I needed some 'time out' and decided to take advantage of the respite care program. When we were checking out the NH it seemed OK, clean,etc. but a bit Spartan. There were no beds available closer to home at the time she needed to go, even though I had given notice to the hospice authorities more than a months' notice. Mom had to be transported more than 35 miles from home (by ambulance) so they had her within a mile of their office.
I found out afterwards from both mom and her aide that the roommate she was assigned to was a man. Apparently his wife visited all hours, running in and out on all sorts of errands.
My mom has been a 'closet lesbian' all of her mature life and was deeply disturbed by this arrangement. She would be totally mortified if I had told the admin about her 'preference', so we said nothing. Is it considered normal to have mixed-sex roommates in a NH?