Finally after 6 months we got my dad close to all of us in a fantastic nursing home, smaller in size and he has never looked better.
I got an alarming call today explaining now they will be moving him to a private room on another floor as he has been inseparable with another FEMALE patient ...kissing, holding hands ect. When it was brought to their attention or his, he slammed his door ect.
While I am beyond heartbroken for him I do understand because of cognitive issues this may not be appropriate!!!
Has anyone ever dealt with this...??? I’m so sad for him and embarrassed as he really doesn’t understand being separated ect. I’m also worried, what if they can’t keep him?
Any advice or thoughts I’d love to hear. I was so happy visits were beginning next weeek here in Vermont, dining room, entertainment ect..he is every workers favorite ...thanks everyone ...just when I had hoped things were going good for once for him..now what?
I didn't have the relationship with my mother that I might have preferred but I find I am able to visit her in the NH environment she is now in and try my best to meet any needs she has which are very limited as she is only mobile in a wheelchair. We both share a love of books. I am able to bring her ones that I myself have enjoyed reading and she has also. I am sad after each visit to a degree as she would love to even be able to stand. That doesn't seem likely but a message such as yours helps me to try to focus on the positive.
I was worried the lady’s family might demand some action be taken but they never did. I don’t even know if she had any family active in her care.
I don’t think this is anything to freak out about but it seems that the administration in your case is acting a little harshly. Have a talk. See what’s really going on. It could be a situation that’s harder to handle for the staff than what I went through with my dad.
Myself, I think it is wonderful that he is able to develop this relationship. Some, do not feel that way.
Does her family have an issue with the relationship? Does she?
I think that it is cruel to say that they can't have comfort in each other. It's not like she is going to end up pregnant, if things could even progress to that point.
Don't be horrified, be thankful that your dad has found someone that touches his heart and makes him feel better.
My grandmother did the same thing and it didn't last very long but, it gave her comfort that none of us could.
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