My brother and I are already not on good terms, so all this did was throw a match on the gasoline! He texts me with the attitude that I must not be taking good care of my mother, because I'm not buying her "nice" clothes.
The irony is, it's actually two CNA's (mother and daughter) that work for us but it was the adult daughter that made the comment. When they first started coming,about a month ago, the mother was wearing the same dingy t~shirt for three days in a row! I didn't say anything, though it definitely seemed a bit weird. So she hadn't bathed in three or more days? And now, wow, I'm still kind of reeling from the "secret text scenario". How bizarre, in my opinion.