Actually, she is my step grandmother on my deceased father's side and who helped my blood grandfather raise him and his brother since they were teenagers. So, she is just like blood; I never knew my 'real' grandmother. Anyway, the reason I'm saying that is because today her blood niece called to say she went to the emergency room. Immediately, I am skeptical about her because the same thing happened last year and this niece asked me to go there because she couldn't be there yet-- was waiting for her brother-in-law to pick her up as he drives and she doesn't. As I drive too (a blessing and a curse), I was not only the first one there, they also came and left early. Ok, granted. But I made a note to myself about it, as she is retired and I'm not. By the way, we're both over 50 and she is about 10+ years older. So, this time around I knew I'd hear another sob story--she's sick with the flu; I responded that I'm about to relieve a coworker from a duty. Don't forget that I have work and school. Plus, I've been sick practically all winter and fighting something off now; though I'm back on my feet. She responds that she has a lung disease. I still said she would have to fight through this (maybe shouldn't have said it like that), and that her aunt couldn't just stay there without someone checking in on her. That I'd go and demanded she get it together when it was time for her to be sent home. She basically hung up. Then when I talked to the narcissistic mother, who is close with the grandmother and recovering from a hip surgery, of course barked her orders to go back to work and be ready to go pick her up on the day she leaves. I said that would be the niece's job, bottom line. Anyway, didn't listen to that; went to check on her because she was short of breath earlier and they wanted to keep her because they think it's her heart. And she's 93 going on 94. Plus, she doesn't give me the headaches the narcissistic mom does; she's very much sweeter though she does have these traditional family beliefs of the stupid solo family caregiver role. In any event, she said she was grateful I came through she acted like why was I there. Now I'm thinking of addressing that niece of hers again to stress the need for her or arrange one of her people to pick her up when ready. I am pi$$ed because she knows I just went through this emergency thing with my own mother and I always expected her to be there for her aunt. I have my oldest half-sister (on dad's side) on standby, but she recently had her own hands full with her now deceased husband who was paralyzed a few years from a stroke. Now she has been getting some fresh air so to speak. I think I also stressed her out venting to her, which I had to apologize about before. It's for the same reasons too; family not stepping up for their 'shifts'.