Before my fathers accident last year which placed him in a nursing home, he was doing everything for my mother except pay bills. Now with my father a nursing home, my brother and his wife do what they can to help my mother, (my other brother doesn't want to be bothered with my mom and I lived 95 miles away. My mother is a diabetic on Insulin and also on oxygen due to COPD and she is also obese. My mom has major back problems and states it's too painful to stand to dishes or vaccuum or even make the bed. Brother reports that he's getting calls from my mother because she has fallen and needs help getting up. The only thing my mom does is sit in a chair all day watching tv, eats tv dinners or peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, will drive to go see my dad in a nursing home but she has to have help getting her wheelchair and oxygen tanks out of the car and expects my brother who is unemployed to cater to her every wim and drive up to the nursing home to help her. My brother has express his frustration and my mother is very difficult woman to deal with. She will refuse to go into a nursing home or an assisted living facility. What should we do?