My mom is in a nursing home for a little over a year with vascular dementia. This may sound silly, but how does one prepare for 'not knowing' how long she could live? The way things were before we placed her in the home, we never thought she'd last this long. Her health is very good otherwise...best blood count numbers she has ever had. She's in the middle stages; starting to hallucinate, but for the most part still knows family. I'm being selfish, but I sure don't want her decline to the point that she doesn't know anything, can't talk, etc.....I'm having a hard time dealing with things as it is now....any suggestions on how to 'NOT' let myself think too far ahead? She and I have always been very close and it is SO HARD to see her declining. I know 'what will be will be'....but I am truly scared of the future...how will I handle it? What if I can't???