My 86 year old mother passed away 2 weeks ago of cancer. I am angry, distraught and confused. She kept saying she was dying but no one believed her, not me, not hospice as her ‘ vitals ‘ were all good. As she faded into insignificance , to a mere 28 kilos, hips protruding, eating less and less, I kept asking, “is she dying?” Or is this the preactive stage- all things I had read on the internet, but I was always told no, and that they would tell us. Eventually I decided to tell my sister to come back from holiday as my mother had to go to hospice and she looked terrible and so sad. Still they did’t know. Thank God my sister came back early because she died 5 days later. My sister said to the doctor that it looked liked my mother only had a few days and he agreed! You can imagine my shock! I feel heavy with grief, can’t eat nor sleep, I know she has died, but I just don’t understand. She was there. Now she is gone.