I hope this is the right place to ask this, and I really appreciate anyone who is taking the time to read this because I am completely overwhelmed. I also apologize for the emotionalness of this post. I am 30 years old. My mother is young at only 54, but she's the most stubborn person I have ever met. When she was younger, she was diagnosed with Addison's disease and Hashimoto's, and for as long as I can remember, she has refused to take her medicine, which can be very fatal and has landed her in the hospital more than a few times... For a long time, she was independent and strong, and lived her own life. Flashforward to two years ago, when she started developed knee pain, as well as bladder issues. It hurt too much for her to walk, so she would sit on her couch and just urinate where she sat, and not care. She never went to the doctor for it. Now, her bladder will not work at all. She does not use diapers or a catheter, and her home smells so bad, no one can go inside. She lives in a camper and refused to walk more than minimally for those two years, so now her muscles are atrophied. She can no longer stand up on her own and has to sit in a wheelchair. She refuses to wear diapers - it took a year and a half to get her to use pee pads, but even those can't do much. She won't brush her hair – for months at a time. Not even joking. When her husband says he will help her shower, she refuses. When he asks her to take her meds, she gets very angry and turns emotionally abusive. It's hurtful and exhausting. She cannot work anymore. She has zero savings, zero retirement, and zero income, and won't apply for disability. I have begged her to take her meds. She won't. I have begged her to make doctor's appointments. She won't. I made doctor's appointments for her, and she'll find a reason not to go. Then, she'll turn around and demand appointments to be made for her again, or she won't go. Her last two doctors fired her because she wouldn't follow their instructions and kept not going to appointments. She refuses to face the truth – she wants to go see a knee doctor, even though every doctor she sees tells her the same thing: it's because of her diseases and they need to be treated. But she doesn't like that answer, so she wants others. She is in severe denial and no one can seem to get her to face the truth and I am at a loss. I live three hours away and I cannot drop everything to take care of her like I could if I lived close by. I am so scared she is going to die. She is so young and yet she refuses to take care of herself. She has severe health issues, and yet she is still sound of mind. Yet... It is now in danger zone. She cannot walk. I found out today that she is getting bed sores now (hence the emotional rambles), and I worry about her sitting in her own urine constantly, yet she doesn't want to recognize how dangerous that is. I don't want her to get sepsis. I am completely overwhelmed and I don't know where to start. I didn't think I'd have to worry about this for a few decades, and I'm at a loss. I am watching her die and she is too stubborn to get help. I don't know what legal rights I have to make her get help. Her husband is about to leave her because he can't handle this anymore, or the way she treats him (and I can't blame him), and I'm scared she's going to have to live with me. I don't think my marriage is going to survive this, not only because of the physical demands of being a caregiver but because of the emotionally abusive behavior on her part. But she has no other family, no other friends. No savings to afford health care. It feels like there is no other option. I don't know what to do. Can I call APS if she isn't elderly? Do I call and do a wellness check so they can condemn her house? Because without a doubt, it is a biohazard. But what happens after? Can they get her help? But she doesn't have money? And I am a minimum wager. I can't afford outside help when I can barely support myself. I live on a third-floor apartment – how am I going to get her up and down these stairs to live with me? She cannot navigate stairs, let alone three flights. How can I get her to appointments? How can I convince her to go to appointments when she is a legal adult? Her cognitive abilities are fine, yet she is obviously very sick. I need so much help and I don't know where to begin to look. I feel so incredibly guilty for being upset and frustrated when I know she didn't ask for these health issues. She is my mother. In spite of everything, I love her so much and my heart is breaking and I don't know what to do. Does anyone have an resources or advice or just... any sort of words of wisdom for this situation? Anything would be very much appreciated. Thank you!