My husband has some kind of dementia - no real diagnosis yet along with a movement disorder and has arthritis all of which keeps him up a lot at night. He sleeps and naps a lot during the day.
I am his primary caregiver and our financial situation is such that I have to work full time, so he is home alone during the day, I am very fortunate that I work just a few minutes away so I am able to go home at lunch to check on him and help him with dressing etc - he spends most of the morning sleeping and the remainder of the day in his lift chair watching tv.
Our home is small and I sleep with my bedroom door open so I can hear him when he calls me for help getting in or out of the bed, or if God forbid he falls. He gets up and down all night long and likes to go to the den sit in his chair and watch tv. I am a light sleeper and even though he is fairly quiet, it wakes me up.
A couple of weeks ago I came down with a stomach virus and was sick for 3 or 4 days and I am never sick, I felt like a big part of getting sick was that I have not been getting enough sleep.
So to help me get a little more sleep and to encourage him to sleep more during the night, I have said that the tv needs to be off between midnight and 7:00 am in the morning, which is when I sleep. He is not happy at all with this - and feels like I am being mean to him and we struggle with it almost every night, I am trying to stick to my guns, but he is wearing me down.
Before this illness - Earl had a bigger than life personality and while he always liked to get his own way - we were usually able to talk things through and come up with some kind of solution. He is now very resentful of any decision that I make - be it the TV or anything else.
Am I being unreasonable in saying no TV at night?