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1) Ask Mother who she would like to handle this, if she doesn't want it to be you. There are Trustee Companies who will do this, for a fee.
2) If it's mechanics, ask HCBS. They must have had experience of this before. Just don't let them invoice you yourself.
3) Ask the bank, once again if it's mechanics. They also must have had experience of this before. There is a difference in getting a necessary hospital bill paid, as opposed to passing total control over finances to a POA.
There is a good chance that going through this with Mother will result in a decision. Remember that a POA can be for more than one person, both to sign. This may reassure her that she is not putting herself totally in the power of one person.
If there is a lot of money at stake here, the Trustee Company may be the most appropriate, and it may be a good idea to get a lawyer to give your mother advice in person. If it is just a natural wish to keep control, 2 or 3 to sign is more likely to solve her worries.
If Mom has money for AL, she may not qualify for Medicaid. If you feel that rehab is not helping her, you can have her discharged back to the AL. You can have therapy come to the AL with Dr. order. If she is a continual fall risk she may have to use a wheelchair.
The other thing is she maybe past an AL. She may now need LTC. If so, you will need to spend down her assets and then apply for Medicaid before her money is gone.
I’m not sure what HCBS is, but if there is a social services department and /or a financial office, I’d go in and forewarn them that Mom has no POA.
If you have no POA, you are free and clear of responsibilities to your mother and her affairs. You are not responsible for any bills she incurs. This is between the medical institution and her.