I have taken care of my mother since I was 9-10 yrs old. Mom has had something wrong all the time., dad worked away most of the time, and on top of that I had 3 younger sibling to look after. Mom chooses to live alone in the country and expects people to come and take care of her ,Drs appt,groceries,bills paying, bank etc. I'am now 58 with a full time job, she has lived with my sisters several times and they no longer want her back with them because she is demanding, and only thinks of herself it dosen't matter what is going on in there lives, you are expected to put your life aside and do for her..... Mom spent about 2 wks with me last year and that is all that I could handle, mostly she would say and do things to make me cry,,, and than say that she is lonely and even in my own home she felt isolated ,hated it here only because I had to go to work and I wasn't there for her!!!! I took her back home and since than I feel like I no longer care what happens ,she can live there and find her own way..After all these yrs enough is enough .I know that this is wrong to feel this way and if I knew how to change I would. But all feelings are gone.Don't get me wrong when she calls and needs something or help I will do it for her, but only if I have decided that it is necessary right now or if she can wait.
I'am ashamed for the way that I feel, But I don"t want to help her any more.
I would welcome any imput as to what I should do to help alleviate this feeling. My sisters have gotten her people to come in and help her out,offered suggestions as telephone numbers, list of people in the area,agencies.. But only to find out later that she thru the information in the garbage !