She stated her desire is for him to take care of investments since he does that anyway. and for me to take charge of the checkbook. pay bills etc.. I am not a very organized person and i think my bro will hold me to any thing i pay for that is not specifically related. Do I have to pass everything by him?/ does he also? He is "withholding" in the communication arena. not very cooperative. Should I make a list of expenses and pass it by him each time. .have him sign it? i'm worried that he may be setting a trap for me. should i give the poa over to him? he is probably executer on the will.. he doesn't live in state and has not participated much in her life until now.. I live in the state. He is a cpa and thinks he knows it all. I am an artist and he is sure i know nothing.