My niece is home for Christmas and brought up the fact that she wants to be tested for Myotonic Dystrophy a form of Muscular Dystrophy that he father died from at the age of 47. It runs in her father's family and both grandparents carry the gene.
Her mother does not want to allow either of her kids to be tested. My sister could not stand knowing she could lose her children at an early age and she is afraid they will go off the "deep end" if they know they have it. She has also been worried that if it is known it will be a "preexisting condition" and they will forever have a problem with obtaining insurance.
My niece wants help with being tested. She feels that she wants to know so if she does have it she will be aware and make better lifelong choices regarding her health, foods, exercise and having children. She knows her Mom is hiding her head in the sand to protect herself but my niece says she definitely wants to know.
How do you handle this? If my niece does find out she has it, then I think she needs ongoing counseling. She is already a bit Obsessive Compulsive so I am afraid that she may go overboard even though she seems very level headed at this point.
I honestly wish there was a way of them being tested without either of them being aware of what is actually going on. How would you handle this??????