Hi, I'am 73 years old been married for for 48 years my wife is now disabled for the past 3 years and also has major depression. My wife is also 73.
I have taken over all the responsibilities running our household including cooking, laundry, cleaning, grocery shopping etc. We also been raising our two grandchildren since they were 3 months old they are now 19 and 16 years old. they are both Home school by me and one the 19 yr old has graduated and pursuing a career as a audio engineer and the 16 yr old is in his 3rd year high school. Their father died of an over dose of Heroin and the mother she is my daughter Who is still not capable to raise her children. The two boys are a special blessing to me and my wife. Beside all this I have my own health issues to deal with and it's very hard to find the time too deal with them as being a caregiver to my wife and all, doing all the things my wife used to do as my partner, plus having to work to supplement my income by driving elderly people to doctors appt. shopping, work etc. So far in the last two years I have overcome cancer in both my kidneys, a quadruple heart operation, I have diabetes, neuropathy, sleep apnea, A stent in my aorta aneurysm in my stomach and a new thing called diverticulis. But I know there is a reason for everything that is going on in my life and I take one day at a time and try to spread love and enjoyment to all I come in contact with in each day. But after 3 years of care giving I am starting to burnout and resent doing it and see my difficulty getting worse. I started to see a psychologist and he is helping me thank God. My wife is always against any I try to do to help her trying to get her to see my doctor to evaluate her so we could get her on medicaid that would help me get her more help with a number of things including a health aid. Thank you so much for taken the time to read this. I seem to be going 24/7 never able to take a break and I think the stress is starting to take its toll on me. during the day I lose my energy to to my chores and work and etc. and I just have to lay down for 15 mins and I get energize and go on. I do that about 2 times maybe 3 times a day. We have no family to help us but my other 34 yr old daughter who is a lawyer, but my wife and her don't talk to each other and she is not the generation of old school that takes care of their elderly parents!!! I glad i found this site and hope to receive and contribute as best I could to help others too. Thank you for taking the time to read this.