New to incontinence - HELP!

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It's official. Dad now needs urinary incontinence supplies, and I need help.


I've tried the reusable boxer brief type, but couldn't wrap myself around reusing them (the smell), so I threw them away. At $19 each, that's too expensive.


I bought dad the cloth looking type that look like briefs (but he had never been a briefs man). He seems to get confused when he doesn't feel his boxers, so I've just been putting the boxers over the incontinence briefs.


The AL charges a hefty "incontinence fee" that I can't afford to pay, so I'm trying to work out a schedule for coming in and changing his briefs for him. How often should I change them? Maybe I can stop by on the way to work, come in early so I can extend my lunchbreak, pack a lunch and eat at my desk so I can run and change them during lunch and come after work. I still haven't figured out what I'm going to do when I have to work both jobs back to back... I'll figure it out.


Is three times a day about "normal" for changing incontinence pads?


What about (for lack of a better term) diaper rash? Should I put some cream on him to prevent it?


Speaking of the odor, how can I get the strong urine smell out of his clothes? He's allergic to fragrances in laundry detergents... would home remedies like white vinegar help?


...and he's leaked on his recliner and it smells pretty strongly.


Are there any special products that can help?


Thankfully, the house will be ready in a couple of weeks, and I can be a bit more hands on.

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This is an old post. There has been a big turnaround and we haven't heard from Tiny since the 13th of August, even though some members have contacted her privately, no response.
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What has helped with my father is something called a booster pad. They go into the adult diaper and have an adhesive strip. They are not the same as guards that you see in the drug store. The guards have a plastic backing and are meant to be put in regular underwear for small leaks. The booster pads are not covered with plastic. They are designed to absorb the liquid and then let any more pass through to the diaper. Because of the adhesive, you can stack up as many as you need. They haven't completely eliminated all leaks with my father, but they have helped immensely. I get them online, but they may also be available in medical supply stores. Good luck.
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This is SO helpful! Thanks everyone!

Yep... the facility charges al a carte for EVERY SINGLE SERVICE (which is why I am moving him out at the end of August).

I bought a big box of the Depend Real Fits for Dad at Sam's Club, and I will pick up some Odoban while I am there and run his clothes through an extra rinse cycle.

...and I like that they have adult barrier cream. I didn't want to use Desitin on an adult.
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Ahmijoy Jul 31, 2018
Kudos to you for thinking of Dad’ s feelings and not wanting to use a diaper rash ointment on him. But, Walgreens is the only place I’ve found a bone fide barrier cream other than ordering from Amazon or medical supply places. I do use Desetin and Pinxav occasionally and it doesn’t bother Hubby. Whatever you use, make sure his skin is very dry and clean.

Hugs to Dad and you.
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My husband is also incontinent so I hope I can help. I’m surprised the facility would charge to help him change. I’ve never heard of that.

I found briefs i really like at CVS. They are the overnight ones and work well. I change Hubby three times a day but he is on diuretics. Wear gloves. I get the big box from Walgreens. If you have trouble putting them on, use baby powder on your hands. I got barrier cream from Walgreens that I really like. It’s their house “Well” brand. A little goes a long way, so use sparingly. Stock up on wipes. Walgreens also has disposable bed pads that are plastic backed for his chair. You may want to ask the facility if they have someone who comes to clean furniture. Dad’s chair should be professionally cleaned.

If his urine has a strong odor, you may want to ask the facility to test for a UTI.
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For the laundry... Check out a product called odoban. You can find the concentrate in gallons at home depot with all the janitorial products. Or Sams club, or Amazon. It is actually a hospital grade disinfectant, and is marvelous for getting scary smells out of clothes and upholstery and carpets. You can add it to the washer with laundry soap. If the scent is too strong you can do a double rinse in the washer.
You can also use it in a carpet cleaner for the upholstery.
Hope this helps.
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At the NH they have a regular schedule of 4 times a day. At rising. Before lunch. Before dinner. Before bed. This can be augmented by more trips to the bathroom or requests. They use a barrier cream to reduce irritation.
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