Hi. I am new to this forum and would just like to share my experiences. I have many questions but not sure where to start. So I will start by explaining my situation. My father was diagnosed with dementia at least 6 years ago. We saw signs long before this. At the time my dad was diagnosed, my mom was going through chemo treatments for colon cancer. We tried to get dad in a nursing home but at that time (6 years ago), the doctors said that unless he agreed to go to a nursing home, we couldn't force him because in their opinion, he still had enough of his mind to make his own choices. As mom's health got worse, she found it harder and harder to care for dad. Eventually in April 2016, dad had to go to the hospital because of a fall. The doctors finally said to mom that the POA is now to take over. At that time, mom was dad's POA. So they kept dad in the hospital until they found a nursing home for him. In September of the that year, Mom passed away and I became POA for Dad. In December 2016, they finally found a nursing home for him. He really hates the nursing home, but I know I cannot look after him. He keeps asking where mom is. So I remind him that she is dead. But one day when he asked where mom, he also asked where his wife is. Through conversation with him I found out that he thinks my mom and his mom are the same person. This seems really strange to me because he knows my name and introduces me to the nurses as his daughter. But for some reason he still can't make the connection between my mom and his mom. He doesn't have a phone in his room and when he wants to call me, he goes to nurses desk. Usually when he calls he asks for mom's phone number or he just tells me he wants out but the staff won't let him. I just don't know how to deal with this. Every time he does this, I feel guilty and have to remind myself that he is in the best place.