Hello all, I just found this group and reading through some of the posts, I thank God I found it. My mom is 86 years old, chronic lung disease (she walks 10 feet and is severely out of breath) and heart issues. Lives alone, still driving, severely depressed, only eats frozen dinners, has no friends,does not want any outside help, only me. She is constantly telling me she wants to die. I am the only child, no living relatives, no help. I finally "forced" her to go to the doctors after 4 years, she cried on and off while at the dr. Office. The pulmonoligist told her that there is nothing that he can do because the damage to the lungs is so bad. Her feet are badly swollen due to the retention of water due to her heart condition.
I am going out of my mind! For the last 2 months everyday I talk to her and she goes on and on about her health and cries. I can't take it anymore. I feel I need to put up some boundaries with her, because I can't be her whipping board. We have always had a difficult relationship and she has used health issues all of her life to get attention. To be honest and please don't judge, but I have never liked my mom. I could live with my mom and take care of her 24 hours a day and it would never be enough. So, I am now in a position to manage her health care. I'm overwhelmed physically and emotionally. How do you all cope with all of this? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Terri