My 83-year-old mom lives in another state (350 miles away) and has been living alone for 20 years since my dad passed. She has no major health problems accept arthritis and some mild short-term memory problems - she uses a walker full-time. My sister had been the one to manage her home health care. She has a home health agency that comes in daily for help with cleaning, medication management, errands, doctor appointments, helping with exercise (extra 2 afternoons a week), etc. However, my sister died suddenly after Thanksgiving. Our family was in such shock and I brought my mom up to our house (where is still is) for the past few months to get through the funeral, holidays, etc... My mom wishes to go home and that seems best as me and my husband work full-time and have two small boys - ages 3 and 5. My mom says she misses her home and wants to try living back in her home again and wants to see her neighbors, friends - who will occassionally stop by. I know all seems well but I just can't seem to shake this anxiety I keep having...now that my sister is gone. While my mom has been with us - we have went to see a lawyer and have paperwork in process for a POA, will, and healthcare directive. I know again...all seems to be falling into place and I've even found an assisted living facility very close to us (that my co-worker recomended that her mom is in) and me and my mom checked it out while she was here and she liked it and says that when she is ready - she will go live there. So how do I stop feeling so anxious, it seems like it really hits hard when I wake up? It seems like all I do is think about my mom...I feel like I'm neglecting my children and my husband...how do I get back to normal? Sorry for the long post.