All of a sudden my husband (late stage Parkinsons with increasing dementia) is asking to come back to our home. He's been in assisted living for almost four years and has never asked before. Should I lie and tell him we sold the house or convince him he's in Assisted Living, has Parkinsons and he needs the extra care, or try and ignore the question for a while? Recently I've been going to see him every day. Maybe I should cut back on visitation frequency?
My Aunt sundowned every afternoon like clockwork. It didn't matter if we "reminded" her she was in the same house she'd been living in since 1975. It didn't matter that we wrote a large sign for her to read that said, "You are home. You live here." It didn't matter that I walked her outside and showed her her house, the address that matched the mail that came in her name. It is part of dementia. Bring an activity for him to do, like a card or board game, watch a light-hearted movie, dance together, whatever it takes. Or only visit him in the mornings.