Hi, so I recently moved my mother in law into my house. I have a 5mo baby, and a 1000sq ft house so its crazy packed and is getting to be a little overwhelming. Its me and my wife attempting to work, raise our baby, and now take care of a frail Mother.
My question is, when is it time to go to the hospital? She can no longer walk more than about 15 feet. She basically collapses onto the toilet after her 15ft walk to the bathroom. She is in constant agonizing pain. So much so, she can barely eat. She can't load a toothbrush, open her pill box. nothing, total full time assistance.
She has diagnosed stage 3/4 COPD, active Hep C, osteoporosis (-3.9t), severe anemia. Weighs maybe 80lbs now down from her usual 90. Shes on 24/7 oxygen. We also have reason to believe she has Multiple Myloma but when we brought that up with the doctor, he said he'd check, but he was more concerned about just getting sodium in her.
We've taken her to the ER a month ago, right before she moved in. They did some imaging but couldn't do much more because there wasn't much to fix. She was just in pain.
She has declined big time since. I'm worried that she should be in a hospital setting and that we may be hurting her more trying to keep her at home. But I'm also worried they're just going to turn us out again. Last week her PCP mentioned maybe doing a blood transfusion but COVID is making things tough. A big fear if we dont take her is I can't see her going a week without falling and hurting herself badly.
Anyways, any sort of advice would be good. We can't afford care that isn't done through insurance. But we are totally at our wits end and about to crack. This feels inhumane and dangerous. And deeply saddening