Hello, I have been a caregiver for my elderly grandfather (81) for about six months. I moved halfway across the country and quit my job to help him because no one else in my family could. The episode which caused me to move out here was when he fell in the driveway and broke several ribs and suffered from concussion. A month later my grandmother passed away. It hasn't been the easiest. I have been very nice and supporting of him and always bite my tongue around him when he says terrible things. Lately it has gotten out of control. He is repeating himself over and over. Refuses to take a shower, he hasn't showered for months. Stopped taking all his medications even though I have begged him to do so. Medications for blood pressure and heart beat. He brags to people that he quit taking them and doesn't need it even though his blood pressure is 180/90. He is spending large quantities of money, very large. Whenever I try to ask him why he is doing these things or confront him in any way about medication he gets explosive and mean. He drinks six beers a day. And barely eats. He says very negative things to me and is downright mean, he is not the grandfather I once knew. It's gotten to the point where I want to give up and buy my own place, but I feel guilty leaving him here alone. He would never ever consider a nurse to the house or anything along those lines because he thinks he's in perfect health. He is a very stubborn man. Whenever we go anywhere he won't let me drive. This is worrisome because I should be driving him and he is getting worse and worse with driving around. I would appreciate any suggestions you may have if you have been in a similar situation.