My parents are still in the house I was raised in and have a dog. Dad is 95 and Mom 87. He has dementia and a catheter but otherwise pretty good and there's an aide there every day (we pay extra). She suffers from depression, anxiety and has a victim/helplessness personality. Four of us siblings - the closest geographically is me (45 minutes). My Mom calls us almost daily crying about something my Dad has done. Shes got some dementia I'm sure. She complains but says no when we suggest things. At this point, I think they have to go into a facility and it cant happen soon enough. Me - I suffer from depression and anxiety and have ulcerative colitis and am falling apart worrying constantly and not knowing what to do. As soon as I open my eyes in the morning, the dread and worrying starts. My brother is the oldest and owns an architectural firm and works 13 hour days. Hes been in denial (or doesn't care) for most of these years when we would bring up the parents getting older, etc. Middle sister is on disability for mental health issues/unreliable transportation and is of limited help. Twin sister takes most of the calls and is stronger than I but it's stressing all of us out. Every day I wonder if I should commit myself again. Last time was 2009 for depression. I don't know how to get through this. Its going to get a lot worse before its better.