I hate that I am so nervous about this, I'm 56 years old for crying out loud and I'm having an anxiety attack over the "dementia" word!
First of all, my mom's appointment was originally scheduled for 3/26. I JUST found out yesterday that when she called the office herself about two weeks ago (trying to get a closer appointment because she felt "sick" but then told me they didn't have any other openings) she in fact did get it switched, so now it's tomorrow at 1:30.
The doctor's nurse is going to call me today so I can give her a heads up on my concerns. She also said I should write them down.
Here's the thing-- I have to do all this on the sly. My mom has already told me she wants to "go in by herself" and I can "ask the doctor any questions after". Basically, she doesn't want me in there for the actual evaluation. This is NOT how she normally is, and she has never asked me to not be present for any doctor, until this appointment.
The ONLY reason my mom would not want me there that makes any sense to me is that she plans to lie when answering questions. She tells medical people she is "fine", and will fake her way through. I myself did not see the full dementia until she moved here six months ago which then terrified me and got me to this site.
Has anyone else dealt with a parent in denial, and/or actively trying to mask the problems? What to do? I'm tried of ignoring the 800 pound elephant in the living room. It needs to be addressed. I don't even have a POA. I need to start having these conversations with her, but she will never admit to having dementia until a doctor tells her.... yes, you do.