If an elder is considered competent and makes bad decisions, must family bail them out? If family knows that elder cannot safely live alone, and elder refuses to get the care they need, can elder insist that family do what is necessary so elder can live alone? Can they blackmail family with possibility of neglect charge? Can family insist elder go into assisted living, nursing home, etc. and wash their hands of responsibility if elder refuses? (and tells family to rescue them or face being charged with neglect.) How could family that felt it necessary to go no or low contact protect themselves from being roped into elder's agenda? After all, most child abusers do not die in prison; should they be able to torment people just because they are parents?